On Monday, I sat down to my desk all ready to work. The kids were all neatly dropped off at school. My “to do” list was ready.
I turned on my computer and was greeted by scary blue-ness… the kind that makes you want to go back to bed. The kind that makes you think in shades of green because you know that blue screen is going to be expensive to fix.
As I uggghh’d and arrrgh’d and hrrmph’d about the woes of this to my dog, who is mostly deaf, the words of my friend Lena popped into my head. Lena is, first of all, one of those people like Tina. Good to know in an emergency. Calm. Reasonable. Kind. She’s a person who would give you a hug when something icky happens and, if you decided to spend the afternoon running over your computer with your car or smashing it with a baseball bat, she’d not think less of you.
Last week I attended an event where Lena spoke, which is always a treat. She’s a really good speaker who puts her heart into the topic. She talked about something I found interesting. And on Monday, it was relevant.
Lena talked about change.
You want change. So you ask for change and you look for it and you try to do all these things to make it happen.
And then, probably more often than not, things start to happen. Only sometimes they’re not good things but bad things. Things you don’t necessarily want to happen. Like computers that no longer work or “to do” lists that are interrupted. People who leave your life. Needing to move. Getting sick.
Change, but not good change.
That’s happened to me. Has it happened to you? You want change so bad you can taste it. But when things start to happen you suddenly find yourself kicking and screaming and cursing and… hrrmph’ing.
How could that happen? I don’t want this! Make it stop! I want things back to the way they were!
Sound familiar?
The amazing thing Lena talked about was that this change, all of it extremely awful if taken separately, has to happen.
You asked for change. In order for there to be room and importance for what is coming, this stuff has to happen. It is part of the change. New things that need to be done. New people to enrich your life. New and better places to live. An increased awareness of health and wellness for you or those you love.
So many of us ask for change, but I realized on Monday that it’s hard to walk the talk. To view the thing as part of the change, and instead of focusing on the icky, to focus on what is next.
By the way, I’ve invented a story around what happened to my computer. It was sick of my daily hrrumph’ing and my monotonous tasks, so it decided to hop a plane to the Bahamas. It took it’s beautiful little self to the beach and spent all its time goofing off on twitter and fully charging its battery. And then, to take advantage of mid-week air fares, it came back last night and was safely tucked in at its little desk by 9:30 pm. This morning it was wide awake and refreshed…
What is next
It seems fitting, on this day that is 45 days from the time I started off to give free coaching sessions to 100 different individuals, to let you know what happened with this little project.
I’ve tried not to mention it too much here, for the simple reason that it seemed the people who needed me — my right people — would find me if it was meant to be. It’s been kind of an experiment with the universe.
And it was meant to be. I ended up with just over 40 sessions, meaning that just over 40 of my right people connected with me. We got to talk about goals and what is icky and scary, and Effie was most patient and loving during the whole process.
It was perfect.
Most of the time it was just an hour and then they’ve gone out into the world to thrive. Some have talked with me a few more times, which is so cool.
Thank you, to all of you who participated in a session, who told a friend about the project, or who stood on the sidelines and said “Yeah! Go Liz!” You are all, each and every one of you, awesome. You are doing amazing things. You are asking questions that enrich your lives and the lives of others. I’m so very proud to know you.
The question of what is next is something I’ve been considering a lot recently, and I want to talk about that a bit more soon… with some exciting news for you…
All my best to you and those in your world,
-liz
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