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Writing with the door closed

All the best blogging advice says that you should never, ever acknowledge that you haven’t written in a long time. Apparently there’s no need to say anything, just get on with it.

To that I say, “Kerflewey!”

Here’s the deal:  I haven’t written here for a long time. I feel bad about that because I really like writing and interacting here.

I haven’t been writing here because I’ve been writing a lot privately. I’ve been working on a novel, writing short stories, doing copywriting for my husband’s new business.

But here, on this blog, I felt I was in the midst of yet another change in direction. I felt that I had nothing to say, yet.

You see, I found that once I started really writing (which is different than anything I’ve ever done before) it’s like a switch that I can’t quite turn off. The ideas keep coming, and they have to go somewhere, so it’s onto the page.

There’s nothing really interesting or glamorous about this writing. It’s me, sitting in a chair with a big yellow legal pad every day, and writing until my hand hurts so much I can’t go on. It’s what seems like a thousand little journals around the house, in the car, and in my purse where I scribble when something occurs to me.

I hope you can understand, there really isn’t a blog post in that. Maybe there’s a therapy session, but not a post.

I do want to share, though, now.

Not only am I writing, but I think I’ve gotten to the point where I’m writing with a purpose. I’m starting to consider dipping my toe into the wider world, sometime soon, and seeing what happens. I’m feeling like I might be able to handle a rejection, and I’m sure there will be many.

That whole feeling of being ready to engage the world seems like something I want to share with you.

I also want to let you know why I’ve decided not to share my creative writing here, as I thought I might.

You see, awhile ago I read On Writing by Stephen King, which is wonderful. Funny, great advice, from the heart. Helpful.

One of the things he talked about was writing first drafts with the door closed, and I had to think about that.

Hard.

As a person who’s been blogging for years, much of my writing has been completely with the door open — accessible, transparent.

The idea of writing something that is only for my eyes, putting it aside for six weeks, editing a handful of times and then sharing it with someone — it’s a completely different process.

Yet, as I try to find my voice as a writer, it’s something I’m giving a try. It gives me more freedom, more courage.

I wanted to let you know about that. There is a lot going onto those yellow legal pads, but it is still private.

I’ll keep you posted. And I’m re-starting the newsletter, because I miss it, too. (You can sign up here.)

So that’s what’s up with me. Meanwhile, I’d love to hear from you and what you’re up to.

Hope all is well in your world, and that you get lots and lots of candy for Halloween.

Be sure to brush…

 

The beauty of kindergarten, part 2

Today my youngest daughter started kindergarten.

I can’t believe she’s five years old.

Although I can’t believe I’m five years older, either, but that’s just between you and me.

My thoughts today are similar to those from a post I wrote a couple of years ago:

http://www.lizmcgowen.com/archives/peace-happiness-and-love/the-beauty-of-kindergarten/

As this school year begins, I’m so thankful for wonderful teachers like Ms. D and Ms. G, who made this morning’s transition smooth even as mommy started to cry.

Wishing you all the best,

-liz

Family history slot-machine

About a week ago, I was on vacation. In between going with my girls to the waterpark in our hotel and having my fingers and toes permanently wrinkled from being in the pool for a week, I got to do a few things I don’t normally get to do.

Doing things you don’t normally get to do is the point of this post — but I’ll get to that in a second.

First, you should know that in my family genealogy is a really big deal. My grandmother and mother were obsessed with tracking down our family history. They were kind of like D.A.R. groupies throughout most of my childhood.

We were the family that actually visited cemeteries on vacation, and took home rubbings of tombstones. I’m not kidding.

I know, it’s a little weird.

Anyway, I have piles and piles of family records in my bedroom closet (it seems disrespectful to put all this in the basement — I know, weird again).

So on the day we got back from vacation, still freshly bathed in the feeling of having time on my hands, I shipped my kids off to their Godmother and my husband off to a baseball game and did something wild and wacky.

Are you picturing it? The dance music… the disco ball… the keg…

That’s right, I whipped out my credit card and joined ancestry.com (and the dance music, disco ball and keg are all in your head, sweetie).

For nearly seven hours, I was in heaven. In the first hour or so, I entered the notes I’d inherited from my grandmother. I thought how nice it was to have things readable rather than scrawled in her fourth-grade-teacher handwriting. It looked cool.

That’s when things got spicy.

You see, ancestry.com is like playing the slot machines with your family’s history. Seriously, you can’t stop. Just when you satisfy your curiosity about one great-great-great somebody, one of those silly little leaves come up next to another name.

So of course you have to go check it out. Then another. And another.

Next thing I knew, the kids and the hubby were home staring at me, and I was in the exact same position I was in when they’d left.

Seven. Hours. Later.

They thought it was kind of strange — after all, they have all been spared from the years of cemetery-hopping vacations and sitting by the door waiting for the UPS guy to deliver the latest “hot” book on Martha’s Vineyard’s early settlers.

But I had a marvelous time. I found out all kinds of obscure and completely irrelevant things. One of my ancestors was French — thus completely explaining my addiction to French fries!

Another was named Prudence, and her mother was named Experience — now that, my friends, was a difficult pregnancy.

My own grandmother appeared on a census as “Rose”, even though her name was really “Ida”… I can see her now, probably answering the questions for the entire family because everybody else was too busy, and deciding to change her name right there and then to something she liked.

This is definitely not an ad for ancestry.com (in fact, I didn’t even link to the site because that’s not the point). Instead, this post is a way to share with you how much fun it can be to totally and completely immerse yourself in a hobby. I let time and worries fade into the background, didn’t worry about the clock, and left my email unchecked.

It was awesome.

As I write this, I’m wondering, do you have a hobby that you can lose yourself in? I hope you’ll take a moment to share — I’d love to hear from you!